Saturday 4 April 2015

Sissy Girls Make The Rest Of Us Look Bad?


Hello again everyone.
It's been a while.

Don't worry, I'm well, it's just sometimes my CD life doesn't have a great deal happening and my guy life will have everything happening, and that just makes it hard to write a good chunk of...
Well, anything really. Let alone anything that anyone will really want to read and stick with.

That isn't to say I haven't been checking in and blocking people from my Flickr and Google+.
I'm taking zero chances now when it comes to my privacy. That's just how it is.
If someone has a problem with my policy on blocking anyone I cant trust, then leave me a comment below, and I will explain in full why you are wrong :D.
Anyway, lets get down to brass tacks.
A couple of weeks ago, I was browsing a forum when I came across a post about 'Sissy Empowerment' or something to that effect.
Essentially, stating that sissy girls are often suppressed in Trans scenes, labelled as the fetishistic odd balls.

(For those of you who don't know, sissies are a sort of niche within crossdressing. I think I've covered this in a previous blog, but I will indulge you.
 Here is a definition from urban dictionary

a boy or man who enjoys little girls clothing. Especially babyish clothing. Lots of frills. Not always straight or gay. Likes to be treated like a babygirl. Likes tea partys and playing with dollys.

Which kind of looks a bit like this 


Not that the above sissy is any way promiscuous, but very often, sissy gurls will talk about fantasies of being used and abused. A quick search on the internet will show you what I'm talking about, but I'm not going to bring that in here. 
Note - Hyper-feminine appearance, with lots of makeup and pink everything, lots of frills, satin, you might as well dump a pound of sugar in her handbag and use cinnamon as bronzer (sugar and spice...). Essentially, a very stereotypical embodiment of femininity.)

Now we have that out of the way.
You may be able to appreciate why they get labelled and shunned.
Hell, I shunned them more than most. They act like a cartoon of a woman, they dress in the same mindset, they were everything I was not trying to convey with my own appearance.
I wanted to create a femme image, but a more believable, less flamboyant femme image than they were creating. Many of them would go into the chat rooms that I went in, asking for men to be their 'daddy'.... It gets weirder, but I will leave it there.
They were my enemy. All I wanted was to look like a woman, then the sissy's come along and inject their chauvinistic view of women into the woman/girl they are dressed up as. Their interests were not makeup techniques, stylish dresses or cool nails.
They were sexual favours and fantasy, a skew of crossdressing I wanted (and still want) no  part in.

It's fair to say, I saw myself as superior to them.
My appearance was not driven by male opinion of what a woman should be...

Or was it?

After all, we share many traits such as heavy makeup to hide the male features, desire to be as feminine as we can possibly feel...
I began to consider that while nothing like me, Sissys are actually a lot like me.

And that is the crux of why I hated them.
I got mad that men and other CDs began assuming I myself, identified as a sissy.
They spoke to me like dirt, they send pictures of their penis to me expecting me to appreciate the gesture. Not one of them was let off the hook, they all felt the sting of my keyboard in full CAPS LOCK RAGE MODE - UNLEASH FURY!!

And then I started to think, it's not sissies I was mad at, it was the douche nozzle idiots messaging me. I was mad because they didn't know the difference between a CD and a Sissy.
Probably the same type of moron who refers to a transexual woman as a 'shemale'.
Ignorant and rude ass-holes - that's who I was mad at. Not the sissies.

But they do kinda fuck things up for us crossdressers and transvestites who want nothing to do with frills or daddy, and even less to do with random men looking to have sex with us.

But then I step back and think, this whole trans thing...
It's a vast, diverse community with niches and skews many people can not fathom, myself included. And unfortunately there are also ignorant rude ass-holes who will tar us all with the same brush. So while it used to be very easy for me to disrespect Sissy girls and believe they are inferior to me (I do look better than most of them though LOL), I now can't, with clean conscience, continue to hold that mindset.
We're all equal, even to the ignorant ass-holes (it probably isn't their fault that they don't know any better, but I'll still wipe the floor with them when they don't), even sissies.

I'm not saying long live sissies.
I am however saying;
Long live Equality and Diversity.

Without them, the world would be a very boring place, and I probably wouldn't be sat here feeling fine in a cute dress.




I don't mean to go all 'Peace, Love, Stop War' on you, but next time someone pisses you off, just think about where they are coming from. Educate them. Then try again.
You may be outnumbered, but you don't have to be out-gunned.

I'd actually really like to hear everyone's input on Sissies and other niches in CD/TV land.
Do they give us a bad reputation? Do they normalise the ideal that women are walking sex toys? Are they a by-product of over exposure to pornography?

Let me know below.

I'll see you all soon,
Love,
Samantha -x-

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